Hey 2022! I’m Single and Ready to Mingle!
Hey everybody!
How goes it? I hope everyone’s year is off to a great start. It’s so odd. I feel like my blogging has come full circle. I first started blogging, back in the day, on a site whose name I can’t even remember at this point, around my frustrations with dating and life.
And here we are. But lo and behold, I am not frustrated today. Quite the contrary, I am excited and full of hope about the year ahead, and particularly about the potential for finding a romantic partner.
Back in October, I deleted all of the dating apps I had on my phone. I decided to take some time to clear my palette and not even think about dating, while also trying to get the occasional face or name I may have been pining over in my head out of there. That’s way tougher than the deleting part.
From there, I decided to turn to the professionals. Well, one professional in particularly actually: Damona Hoffman. Damona is a dating expert, as well as the host of the podcast Dates & Mates. A friend sent me an episode of her podcast last year, and I really enjoyed it. So, I’ve been a fan since, and I decided that I would follow her advice to the letter.
From there, I’ve thought much more about what I want in a partner. Specifically, what are the must have’s? What are the “i really don’t cares?” What are the dealbreakers? As Damona would say, I’m being way more intentional about my search for a love interest.
From there, I updated my dating profiles (I use OKCupid, Bumble & Hinge) to try and make sure I’m offering the most honest interpretation of myself. From there, I made sure I was ready for “Super Dater Sunday” which is generally the first weekend of the new year. That’s when EVERYONE is on the dating apps. However, because the 1st was on a weekend, it was anticipated that the super dater weekend would extend to the 2nd weekend of the month, and I don’t think the experts were wrong, because five minutes after I turned my profile back on, I was getting bings and buzzes. However, now with a much more discerning eye, as well as an honest reflection on “Can I see myself dating this person?” I find myself swiping left way more than I’m swiping right. However, I’m looking for quality connections, so it is what it is. By the way…am I the only person whom the first thing they look at is political affiliation?
Conservative: Left
Moderate: Left
God don’t need no doubt money, and I don’t need no lukewarm liberals in my house. You’re down with BLM, you understand the tensions between black communities and police departments, etc.
My friend Veronica also pointed out recently that she hasn’t seen me date African American women much. I responded, “How many black women you know that want to date a dude who listens to Slipknot and Hatebreed?”
She responded “Ohhh…..yeah…..”
However, if you know one who is also intelligent and cute, please feel free to send her my IG information and tell her to drop me a DM.
And so it goes.
Additionally, I’m trying to pick up some of the vibes from my friend Erin. She’s all about manifestation and speaking things into existence. So I’m doing way more of that. It will happen. I just have to be patient, but in motion. Good relationships do not manifest themselves while you’re sitting on the couch Netflix-ing, nor will I meet my perfect woman in the produce aisle at Jewel. Would be awesome, but highly unlikely….and so I’ll keep in motion this year. I want to try new things, see new places, and hopefully in the midst of all that, OKCupid, Hinge or Bumble will lead me into the arms of some cool chica who thinks I’m the bees knees.
Who else is dating in 2022? How are you feeling about things so far? Have you had any dates? How were they??? Let me know down in the comments.
